I wanted to touch on a topic and words of choice that I feel so incredibly passionate about—truth be told I actually hate (I know it’s a strong word) how much they are used. The word ‘hustle’ and ‘busy’ have been worn like a badge of honour, or a new shiny engagement ring and to be quite frank I actually can’t stand it.
I am a reforming people pleaser and a let’s do ‘it all’ and ‘be it all’ kind of person in order to feel fulfilled. Don’t get me wrong I still find myself slipping into old habits from time to time but, the awareness is there and I begin to feel little niggles in my belly when I slip into this ‘hustle’ mode. I hear my friends often reply to how they have been with, “yeah really busy”—after letting out a little or big sigh. I can totally relate, and want to make it clear that there is no judgment here—although, at times it stirs me a little even though I know I too have been consumed by ‘busyness’ for way too long ago. We have been conditioned to think that the busier we are, the harder we work, then the more we will be, have and achieve. But, in reality, that isn’t necessarily the case. I understand that life gets really full and we have commitments, responsibilities and often deadlines however, we do have a CHOICE in where we place our energy. If there is no energy and space set-aside for you to simply just BE, then I urge you to ask yourself these two questions:
What are you avoiding? What are you trying to prove and to whom?
I have found these two questions to be pretty bloody powerful, but only when answered with complete honesty.
I want you to really sit with these questions and to put some of your energy into being in a space just with yourself. I understand you may have children to attend to or meals to prep, whatever it is there is always a way to create a little space in your day for you. Ask for support from a loved one or friend to help you out for 30-minutes whilst you attend to something important—and that something important my friend is, you. It’s coming home to you, face-to-face, with no distractions or BS about not having enough time or being to ‘busy’.
When we allow ourselves some time off auto-pilot and that awful ‘hustle’ mode, we can begin to understand ourselves more deeply, why we are choosing to live with such force in our life and whether we actually are truly happy with how we are showing up for ourselves and in life. I understand life can get ‘busy’ or full and there are times where we will need to work hard to achieve/do/complete what we need to however, there may come a time where your body begins to fatigue, you may feel your motivation wane—this is a sure sign that you need to take space, get still and get honest with yourself.
‘Being’ I believe, is more important than the ‘doing’. Because, when we can just be, we tap into our truth and authenticity, things become clearer and we show up with no agenda or need to prove ourselves.
Being YOU is more than enough.
Stay true, allow space and time to go within and ditch the ‘hustle’ and ‘busy’ title—cos’ it ain’t sexy and most definitely does not make you more worthy.
“When she lived authentically, her sparkle returned and her life was fulfilling.” SJP.
In ‘being’ and with love,
Let me know your thoughts below. Or, you can always email me at Sammy@sammyjpearson.com