It takes a weak person to stop and sit, relax and go within—so I used to think. Being busy was something I wore proudly, I thought people would be proud of me and think highly of me because I was always ‘doing’ and on the go. Early gym sessions, then work, extra curricular reading, catching up with friends, more gym sessions and late nights, meant that I was super fulfilled, hard working, achieving all of my to do list and felt super complete and content—perhaps my ego liked to think so but in reality I was exhausted, screaming on the inside for it to all stop and for the day to come where I would feel at ease, peaceful and calm within. But in all honesty I struggled with the ability to listen to my body and allow such feelings to have the opportunity to be felt within.
As a modern woman, we often feel as though we need to be it all and do it all in order to ‘succeed’ feel complete and happy, however this may not be sustainable but at the end of the day making others happy is our first priority. Or is it? The more I would push and force myself to do and be all that I thought I should be, the more I became less of Sammy—deeper and deeper I went until I came to a place where I had no concept of who I was, what brought me joy and how the heck to get myself out. The body can only take so much, and when we choose not to take note of it—whether it be a conscious decision or not, we rob ourselves of living our purpose and passions and dis-ease can be created in the body. This then takes us time, energy and strength to repair and rebuild ourselves to a point where only then can we begin to live in truth and with less pushing and forcing and more ease and grace.
So, how do we become the master of our body and how can we chip away at our tendency to push ourselves to our limit? For some of us, it may take an illness or dis-ease to form in our body, where we become so exhausted and unable to do the simplest of tasks. For others it may be an intense feeling of loneliness, frustration or anger that drives us to stop and understand how to take charge and make the change(s) required. For many though and myself included it is the former—a point where my body began giving me warning signs, not whispers or little taps on the shoulder but bigger and louder signs that couldn’t go ignored any longer.
Today lovely, I urge you to do this first step—stop what you are doing and sit down somewhere comfy and take three deep belly breaths. I want you to really feel your belly expand and fall as you release your breath. This is making space for YOU, allowing your nervous system time to get used to being at a more resting state and not hyper-alert or on edge. Ask yourself how it feels; can you feel a sense of uneasiness? I would expect you would and that is good, it means there is resistance there that requires some working through.
This was the first step I took three years ago—my journey within, which continues and is ever evolving. I chose to become a seeker, a student and a forever master of my body’s signs and signals. It’s not an overnight job or a quick fix—rather the beginning of a lifelong journey of understanding your body. It’s a fact, that when we let ourselves be run by others opinions, beliefs and ideals we are letting go of what is true to us at a soul level, as fundamentally we all cherish the purity of being free. We all came here to live our light, beam and radiate from within and without—sharing our own unique gifts, talents and passions. But when we ignore our body we are ignoring our own light, we lose touch with our purpose and we become less of our true selves.
Step 1. Breathe – Make time each and every day to take 3-10 deep belly breaths
Step 2. – Make space in your day to just be. This doesn’t include the breath work above. Make space to either sit and drink a cuppa or write down your deepest desires or meditate. This will help you reconnect with yourself and your body. Feel in your physical body is it sore or stiff anywhere? Perhaps stretch it out or walk outdoors, allow yourself to listen to what comes to you and act accordingly. This space gives you time to listen, reflect and get honest with yourself.
The more we make time to become a master of our body we are making time to move one step closer to our truth and inner radiance. Notice when you do this how those close to you pick up on your renewed energy, you can be the light for yourself and the light for those close to you. This is not a selfish act, which many of us may be thinking and feeling before we even begin this journey. I see it as a selfless one because, by honouring and listening to our body and acting accordingly, we are showing and teaching those around us from our actions and by doing so they will see that filling your own cup up first gives you the energy to be the best version of yourself.
So to recap, in order to become a master of our body we need to allow time to breathe and for our nervous system to chill for a bit. Making space for ourselves is crucial—it will take a conscious effort to do this, perhaps putting it on your ‘to do list’ each day may help. Again, you will most likely feel resistance to make this a daily practice—I definitely felt this initially. Be kind and gentle with yourself and know that it will take time, patience and practice, but in the words of a wise man;
“It always seems impossible until it’s done” ~ Nelson Mandela
You can make it possible, follow these two steps daily and you will be on your way to becoming a master of knowing what your body needs and wants. This is the beginning to inner healing, acceptance, love and living your best self.
Yours with radiance and love,