I first heard this concept from Melissa Ambrosini in her book ‘Open Wide,’ (one I would highly recommend). I suppose this concept wasn’t entirely new to me however, the way she described it was so concise and simple. In any moment we are either opening our heart or we are closing—when we are open we are present in the moment, giving and receptive of love and our hearts and body feel expansive. When we close, it will feel more constricted and a turning inward, and we are unable to show or receive love from that state of body and mind.
For me, this opening or closing of my heart resonated deeply and has definitely become another form of grounding me in the present moment. There have been many times especially in my relationship with my husband that, I have felt a closing of my heart, and then wondered why he didn’t respond in a loving way or why his actions felt distant or cold. I know there are many elements to unpack in our relationships and the dynamics that play out but what if we just started with this simple technique? By simply asking yourself in the moment of interaction with your partner, family member or friend and whether it’s a positive or not so positive interaction asking your self, “is my heart open or closed right now?” And see what answer comes to you. You will know instantly and if you answered with “closed” then, you have the power in that moment to let go, loosen your grip and choose to open your heart. The beautiful thing is the moment we begin to open, we are not only opening our own heart but we are being the light and mirror for the other person to also, open their heart.
Put simply, we are all made up of atoms, which are continuously giving off and absorbing energy and light all the time. In fact our bodies make up a total of 700 trillion volts of energy (L. Carraro, 2018). How amazing is that?! So, when we open our heart, we are lifting our energy and vibration and those we come into contact with feel and sense this loving energy, both energies entangle and our bodies instinctively know what is nourishing for our cells, it will want to gravitate toward the ‘good vibes.’
“By giving more love, we receive more love.”~SJP
This concept is simple yet like anything new it requires an awareness and practice, the more we practice opening our heart, letting go of attachment (a topic in and of itself) to the outcome and being present in each moment, the easier and more effortless it will become.
I know from previous experience with this concept that, when I open my heart and allow more love to flow through me whether it be giving my husband a hug and asking him what I can do for him, or whether it’s buying flowers for a friend for no specific reason except to show gratitude for their friendship, it elevates my vibration, I feel more present and in the end receive more love from giving more love.
Where perhaps can you start today and with whom? Perhaps use this as a little experiment for yourself and witness how you feel and what unfolds for you and within your relationships.