For many, the ability to express oneself can fall short and often lead to a ‘closing’ off or shutting down. Perhaps that’s what you have been taught, absorbed or maybe you were once shamed for expressing your feelings and now, that trauma has stayed with you, written in your mind and body as truth.
I’ve noticed that within myself the less I express, open up to my feelings and allow them to move through me, the more out of balance my body becomes and the more I feel ungrounded and all ‘up-in-my-head’. That feeling of contraction, isolation and closing off from the outside world creates more discomfort, dis-ease and stress in our body and therefore, we aren’t able to live as our best and truest self.
This process for me is ever evolving, through forms of self-care and expression practices I’m coming to know what works and lends me support through times of heightened feelings and emotions. What we don’t express will stay stuck in our energetic body, creating stagnation, giving our old self-limiting stories a good chance to play over and over in our mind. A process that has helped me to understand what needs to be expressed is grounding—providing a container for me in order to feel safe to take steps to express what it is I’m feeling.
To ground ourselves, also gives us the ability to understand what we may need to express, be it through written or spoken word, it allows for our intuition to guide us to our truth in that exact moment. Grounding myself each morning helps set me up for my day, it gives my body the opportunity to let go of any stagnation and allows me time to process how I’m feeling and what may be arising for me that morning. Grounding your energy can be done at any time of day and anywhere—I like to ground my energy with the use of breath, stretches and getting outside in nature.
Expressing you can also be just sitting with it—the emotions, thoughts and feelings that are being felt. Through the act of acknowledging what is arising within you and allowing yourself to sit with it, that maybe all that is required for now. Having time to just be with your feelings instead of fighting them can be enough of an expression for you—with no words to be spoken or written, at that time or even at all.
Examples of my ‘expression practices’ - Talking with a close friend or family member, Writing in my journal, Listening back to a recording of a conversation with myself, Yoga, Dance and Stretching.
Mediation, Stillness and grounding myself are supportive practices that give me the opportunity to build awareness of how I’m feeling and understanding what may or may not need to be expressed.
When it comes to wanting and needing to express yourself, but you feel worried or scared to, know that support is always available to you, whether that be through a friend, family member, coach or therapist.
With love in expressing yourself,
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