Hmmm, lets just sit with this word ‘pressure.’ What comes up for you? What can you feel in your body? What thoughts come to mind? Is pressure your default, your ‘go to’ when things aren’t going the way you planned or aren’t happening fast enough? Do you add more pressure to yourself to perform, do and move things along?
I often will catch myself during times where I’m more in my ‘being-ness’, where I’m doing less and a little part of me will begin to freak out. My ego will come pounding in, heart racing with an immediacy to get things done right in that moment, or my ‘to do list’ will grow from 5 things to 50 in the space of a couple of minutes. The pressure to be, do and have what perhaps we feel is considered 'success’ or what we ‘should’ have already achieved is a sure way to self-sabotage—a sure way of cutting our sense of self-worth down.
A question I have asked myself more and more is “what if being me as I am right in this moment was enough?” Perhaps sit with this for a minute, how does this feel in your body? What thoughts come flooding in?What I’ve learnt over the last six years or so is that being whom you are, sitting with that person and getting vulnerable with yourself is where all of this pressure we put on ourselves can begin to fall away. Maybe not completely, but a sense of ease can be instilled within when we allow ourselves to be as we are in each moment. When we give ourselves this opportunity of allowance to get vulnerable with who we are and where we are at, it gives our sense of self-worth and enough-ness a chance to bloom, to strengthen—without this knowing of our innate worth and ability to allow an openness and a chance to get to know oneself, the pressure to ‘succeed,’ perform and achieve things outside oneself will remain a constant construct within the fore of the mind. A program that can be re-written if we give ourselves a chance to lean within, to sit, observe and deeply get to know and understand oneself.
A practice that I have found to help me ‘take the pressure of’ and allow me to get more comfy with myself is, sitting with myself either in meditation or just pure silence first thing in the morning. I love getting up with the sun (or just before), the house is quiet and all is still. I place my hand either on my heart or belly and just notice how it feels to do this. I like to ask my body what I need to know in that moment—this takes practice and dedication, but the more I am ‘being’ in this practice the more at ease I feel and can generally take this into my day.
Taking the pressure off isn’t about changing anything, really, it’s about remembering who we are at our core, it’s an understanding that by just existing and being born into this world you have a purpose, and that my dear is to be unapologetically and authentically you from the inside-out.
P.S – I would love to hear from you, how have are you going about taking the ‘pressure-off’ and getting more comfortable with ‘being’ more than always striving, doing and achieving?