Hey lovely, here is something I’ve been pondering lately. It could be due to a rather big move which is about to happen for me but, I see this more so as a question that tends to re-surface at a certain point in my cycle—always during my winter phase (read more here on the different seasons of your menstrual cycle http://thisislifeblood.com/inner-seasons-class/).
I am definitely a person who for as long as I can remember has been very much in my head. As a kid, I would play for hours on my own creating imaginary worlds with all my Barbie’s along with story lines that would totally trump ‘The Bold and the Beautiful.’ To this day I find whenever there is a challenge or change my mind will begin to get louder, stronger and way chattier than usual. Which, I think is probably the case for many of us and it’s part of our mind’s job to keep us safe and protect us from any undue harm. What I am finding right now is, answers to my questions just aren’t coming through, well not entirely at least. My ability to move through the excitement, anxiety and fear of our move is hindering this sense of ‘knowing’ that we all have. So, how can we get to the answers of our questions, not by any source outside of ourselves but from this place of ‘knowing’ within? My belief is we can’t, with the caveat being when the mind is in over-drive its focus is purely the fear/challenge/change that is right in front of us, waiting to happen.
This can be frustrating and difficult to accept but, the way I have begun to look at this is, these answers within us aren’t going anywhere. For right now perhaps, they aren’t meant to come forth and make themselves known. Perhaps right now, all there is to do is accept, allow and surrender into the moment, whether that is the chaos of the mind or whatever is presenting itself now, just be there. I’ve noticed that when I have let go even just a little and surrendered into the uncertainties that are on repeat in my mind I feel a little more at ease, my body doesn’t feel as tense and I can actually take a deep breath. I did this the other day, my anxiety was high and my mind was throwing all sorts of stories my way and so I paused, took a deep breath and said to myself “I am safe.” It may have only been subtle but my body definitely thanked me as my anxiety reduced.
The more we do these little yet effective practices, deep breathing, perhaps saying a mantra that resonates, helping you feel safe and supported and incorporating movement into your day to get any stuck energy moving, can all help to create more flow, ease and an open channel for those answers we seek to come through. And they will come through, sometimes when you least expect it—this experience has been so true for me. The other day I was so caught up in my hormonal health journey (yes, it’s still a work in progress) and it wasn’t until I did a yoga class, that my ‘knowing’ gave me a little nudge and whispered, “do more of that, it’s nourishing for your body.” I not only heard those words but I also deeply felt them at my core and immediately, I softened.
I know many of us, myself included, want the answers and the exact know how to come through us straight away. But first, we need to allow ourselves to create space, even just a little. This space can come in the form of physical space and also practices like I mentioned above, all of which work to raise our vibration and bring us back to our wholeness—that place of deep inner ‘knowing.’
So, take the pressure off of yourself, trust that the answers will show up for you when you allow yourself to feel better, drop the forcing and intense focus on the answer and instead surrender to the now and move, breathe and ‘be’ in ways that feel so good for you.
Here’s to our inner knowing—where all our answers reside.
PS – Please know you are never alone in this, we all have fears, challenges and dreams for our life and future. Sometimes we need a little guidance, someone to hold the container for us in order to bring ourselves back to centre and our ‘knowing,’ so our inner guide can be heard and felt. If you feel called, I’d love to hear from you and your experiences and if you are looking for support during a transition in your life, please reach get in touch here - email@example.com.